Mindset Miracle 21st July 2021
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[00:00:24] Good morning, everybody. Glad to see you guys here. Hope you're feeling like you're ready to get rocking and rolling. I really just enjoyed the journey, watching a lot of you go through a number of different realizations and different things that you're working on in your life right now. We're here today, , for your purposes.
[00:00:49] To be able to open up and ask questions. Share insights, wins, talk about things that have been on your mind, and I'm going to open it up to you guys to go ahead and who has questions or things that they've wanted to share or wanted to ask about challenges you might be coming up against. The time is yours.
[00:01:17] I'm ready to help. Hopefully the group can as well. Who wants to kick us off?
[00:01:25] Okay, Brad. So I know you've answered this and probably answered it again, but I'm in a different place today. So I might understand it differently today. So my question that I've been pondering on this morning I was reading this thing. And so it talks about, and you've talked about this about like, How, when we want something and we're working for something to live as though that's where we're at, right.
[00:01:50] And to, to live that life. And so I was curious from a financial perspective, how does that work? Because we keep hearing about, you know, people [00:02:00] get themselves in trouble when they live above their means. So, how do we, how do we balance that
[00:02:06] Let me ask you a question. Yes. If you had the money, how would you act differently? What would you do differently?
[00:02:22] There are things that I do myself that I would pay other people to do. There are higher quality things that I would prefer to buy instead of less expensive things.
[00:02:38] Would you, would you worry differently? Yes. That's a step in the direction that you can take without spending the money. Okay. The way that you think about things, is it rooted in worry and lack? Or is it in abundance and we can afford things? Because I know right where you're at. Angel and I were there too.
[00:03:07] We went through the exact same question. Because how do you, I mean, great, make it till you make it. I'm going to go buy a Rolls Royce and we will live in it because I have no money for anything. And by the way, I can't pay for gas either. So like, yeah, there is definitely wisdom that needs to be balanced in that thing.
[00:03:32] However, if you start to think differently or worry differently, and you think In that place of oh, Brandon asked the question to be repeated. The question Brandon was, how do you, how do you, when we say kind of almost the fake it till you make it or live in abundance, how do you do [00:04:00] that when you don't actually have that abundance so going back.
[00:04:05] The question I asked was, how would you worry differently? If you had the money, you'd still need to be smart with your money if you have tons of it. Look at Warren Buffett. The guy drives the same truck he's driven since, like, the 80s. He lives in the same tiny, small house that he grew up in. It's literally like a 1, 200 square foot house.
[00:04:29] He's one of the wealthiest men in the world. He's brutal. He's smart. He invests. He does those types of things. And I will tell you that I think the investment piece is probably what helped us feel different about what we were doing. You don't want to track your investments on a daily basis. That is a nightmare that will just make you feel crazy.
[00:04:55] But if you take 10 a week, maybe put it into a Robinhood account. Uh, Acorns. Every time you make a purchase, Acorns takes the cents and rounds it up to a dollar. And it puts it away for you. Great little programs that you can start to put some money aside in very simple ways, but it adds up relatively quickly.
[00:05:22] In fact, Acorns, when we were using that, I think it added up so quickly that we ended up. It actually had to become a budget item because we were putting so much in. And anyway, it's, there's, there's little ways like that that you can invest. And when you're doing those actions, you feel when you feel different, you end up worrying about financial stresses differently.
[00:05:57] Does that make sense? It [00:06:00] changes the energy of where you're at dealing with the managing you. And guys, I know it almost sounds cliche and hard to believe, and I wouldn't believe it though, didn't have the experience myself that when my energy changed about money, my results with money change when I changed about my energy and my worries about my relationship with angel, my relationship with angel.
[00:06:36] When I stopped worrying about what was going to go wrong, and I started affirming what was going to go right, and giving myself constant reaffirmations and evidence that reinforced those affirmations, things changed. But when I got back into that, negative worry state. I was giving myself evidence that things weren't going well, that things were falling apart, that financially we weren't going to make it.
[00:07:10] And guess what result I got? Over and over through the first 15 years of my marriage, Angel and I just, we'd ask ourselves together all the time, Why do, and this is an app formation which we didn't even know we were using at the time, Why did we struggle so much financially? I mean, when you looked at us on paper, we made a lot of money.
[00:07:39] But we were paycheck to paycheck. We couldn't, we couldn't hardly pay our bills. We went to the Bishop for Bishop's Storehouse multiple times. And, I mean, in Dallas, I was making 87, 000 a year on salary. And we had to go to the Bishop for Bishop's Storehouse.[00:08:00]
[00:08:03] It was not that we didn't have. It was that we didn't have the mindset that we needed. And when that changed, everything else changed. I make less money currently than I did then, but I live a far more abundant life. I don't, I, it's, It's craziness to me to think about it. I, but it's been choosing to live by design rather than by reaction.
[00:08:36] So it's a great question, Emily. Do you have any clarifying questions or other things I can dive in on it? I just want to make sure I understand this is like a broader thing. So, I mean, There's so many different areas and you mentioned and touched on relationships. So obviously there are, you know, we can only change our side of a relationship, but we change how we picture it, how we envision it and how we treat it.
[00:09:04] You know, with with health and stuff, obviously we're not just going to envision, well, I'm a runner and just sign up and go do a marathon. But we would change our mindset, change, I mean, I think I'm just trying to make sure I understand and every, the application of it is to make sure that we really change the mindset and then change the steps that we can change today and make our choices based on those long term.
[00:09:32] The long term direction that we're headed, I guess, even if we can't make the individual choices that we would prefer today. Does that make sense? Yeah. Let me, let me give you some, another story. So I have a really good friend of mine, like, guy is amazing. He came down with a he just started on the skis.
[00:09:54] They didn't have a name for it because every doctor he went to, every [00:10:00] specialist, every He was 100 percent healthy and completely unexplained. But he was very, very, very convinced. That there was something extremely wrong. He, he finally told me, he says, Brad, I truly think I have cancer and they're not seeing you.
[00:10:26] But all the cancer tests, all the, I mean, they were checking his blood cells. They were going in deep. This is like, when we talk about a full blood workup, I don't think any of us has probably ever had the level of full workup that this guy had. And nothing. Healthy. Everything said healthy. But he hurt.
[00:10:49] just excruciating pain. And when I went and visited him, he, he looked like a cancer patient on his, on his couch braille, he had lost severe amounts of weight and, and he wept and said, he just told me, I, I'm going to die and they're never going to know why. And as we talked, I had a premonition. And was, was inspired to say something to him and I said, all right, all the time I'm trying to like, argue with him and reason with him and coach him out of, out of it and just be positive and like, so finally, it was clear that that is not going to happen.
[00:11:45] And I submitted dice to come to him and just said, you know, all right, I hope you know how much I love you. But while you were talking, you talked about your kids. And I said, you have a choice. I don't know how [00:12:00] long you have to live. By your estimations, you have three to four months before you're gone. You want your kids to remember you as this guy laying on the couch who's lost his ambition and his willingness to try to live.
[00:12:18] Or do you want to go out in a blaze of glory experiencing the pain, fighting it, and teaching your kids, who at the time were only Six, I think seven years old. Fighting against that and show them how to live before you die. Or are you just going to lay here and wither away?
[00:12:45] I left his house thinking, well, at least I said it, but I did not think that it meant anything to him. Three months ago, he completed his first Ironman race. He got up. He decided to put through the pain. To live for his kids. And he just completed an Ironman.
[00:13:13] The reason I share that story, you guys, is because. The choice is up to you. Yes, we have circumstances. Yes, we have pain. Yes, we have not enough money. There's just not there. But it all, what we focus on expands. If you want more money, focus on more money coming in. When you get a check in the mail, Angel literally took the secret to this extreme level and she started saying, Every time she went to the mail, she was like, I was like, what are you doing?
[00:13:55] You always do that. And she says, I'm [00:14:00] expecting checks and they're not in there. Well, now we get the craziest, stupid, unexpected checks all the time. And who writes checks anymore? But yet we have unexpected checks show up. In the mail. And my wife's like, see, I knew it was coming. She's changed what she focused on.
[00:14:25] The money wasn't there. We could stare at that, that non existent pile of money that we don't have enough. Or when we got small amounts. We celebrated it and we said, look, our money pile is growing. Our accounts are getting better. I had a, I had a Chase receipt that I printed out. Some guy had found it on the sidewalk and took a picture of it and put it on on Facebook.
[00:14:51] And it was for 1. 6, 1. 1 million, 617, 284 dollars and 56 cents. And I put that up on my vision board and I look forward to the day when my Chase account has 1, 256, 416. 82. That's what it is. Go back, it's been a while. I need to add it. Which, by the way, I have a report. I talked about this on Tuesday. But I did put my physical vision board up.
[00:15:33] So I followed through and did what I promised. This is my favorite one right here. That's me. Photoshopped in front of the Sydney opera house. And I look forward to going and creating that picture exactly like that. In reality, I'm envisioning it. I'm focusing on it. I am believing [00:16:00] that it is. It is there.
[00:16:02] And I tell myself that there is more money being printed for me right now. I know there are people being prepared in their minds right now to come and join the mindset miracle masterclass. And I'm working on a new product with the slopes collective for executives. I'm working on another program that I've had done for years and I've done nothing with it.
[00:16:27] And I can see the people that are going to come and gladly pay me for those services because they hurt so much and I have what they need. I can teach them. I can show them. And so, I focus on that. Thanks. The fact that we've not had a new person join the Mindset Miracle class in, I don't even know how long.
[00:16:58] I don't focus on that. I don't worry about it. I don't put energy to it because I know things are coming. I know they're going to take a little bit of time and I know that they're coming. And people think I'm crazy for investing in these programs, but I invest because I believe in the power of me to create the abundance, to create what is coming.
[00:17:22] And so I do take those risky financial decisions. That right now, if we were having to cash in our chips for the house down payment, I'd spend my down payment on investments into myself. And I'd be in trouble because the ROI is not coming yet, but I do believe it will be here before. And we'll be fine.
[00:17:50] I'm not worried about it. That's, that's where I live. That's how I, that's where I go. [00:18:00] And I truly can tell you guys, I want you to know, there is an awareness. In my, in my mind and in my heart that yes, the closed date will come.
[00:18:12] So I better get my goals and make sure that I'm getting my ROI on my investments and getting the money back in there. But I truly can tell you that I believe that's going to happen. Like I'm not, I'm not feeling like, what if it doesn't? Then what's my backup plan? I don't have a backup plan. Because I don't need a backup plan because I know it's going to work.
[00:18:37] Who's responsible to make it work?
[00:18:41] I need to buckle down, make sure I'm showing up. I'm putting in the time and the effort. And what if my time and my effort falls short? Oh, well now, now I should panic. Nope. Cause I also believe in miracles. I see them all the time. And I know that if I put in my, my best and sometimes my best isn't even my best.
[00:19:09] But I try to put in my best. I strive to achieve what I need to achieve. Then I have faith that things work out. And boy, if anybody in this class would know that things work out for Brad Brockbank, Emily, you'd be the one who would know. definitely has seen that somehow, some way they just do. And she also can tell you guys, I'm not great at budgeting.
[00:19:43] I'm not great at counting the money and knowing right where it's at and how to do what it needs to do. It's not my forte. I'm super grateful for Emily because she brings that skill set to the company for me. But even when we're [00:20:00] going over budgetary items and talking about the forecasts and things that we're are coming up and our budgets over expand or different things.
[00:20:09] Yeah. All right. Well, it's going to work out and it does. It always works out. Why? Well, that's easy. If things work out for Brad Brockbank, that's why. I know that sounds a little pompous and I don't, I don't think things work out for Brad Brockbank because I'm amazing and I make things work out for me.
[00:20:38] Things work out for me because I don't worry and Heavenly Father takes care of it. I love the scripture that it talks about, consider the lilies of the field. How they grow. And then it talks about the sparrows and that they don't coil for food, they don't pursue for food. The Lord feeds them. They don't have to worry.
[00:21:01] I promise you that is a true principle. He will take care of you. And he doesn't drop the worms into the bird's mouth. The birds still have to go out, they still have to Hunt and search, but the food is there and he will give it to them. And that's how I've found life to be for me. That if I just go out and do what my best efforts are, things just go up and happen.
[00:21:36] And I know that in being part of this class, it's like, yeah, Brad, but you're a coach and you've done all these things. And with this tight, small little group right here. A lot of you know me at a, at a peek behind the curtain level. Guys, I'm not, I'm not anything super special. I have a positive mindset. I expect things to work out [00:22:00] to a almost detriment sometimes of like, wow, Brad, you are really, really hyper positive.
[00:22:09] And you're not looking at reality. Well, my reality is it worked out and if it doesn't work out, give it a minute because it does work out.
[00:22:26] I guess I'll close just one last thought that I've had. Or Emily, did you want to ask another question real quick? Yeah, different question on a different topic. I mean, I'm not ashamed to just get on and we can have a coaching session here. Nobody else wants to do it. That's what this time is for.
[00:22:41] Everyone's missing out. Here's another question that I've noticed it is it. And maybe this is just a bad affirmation. I need to change it, but it feels like the closer sometimes that I get to a goal, it's like the highs are higher and the lows are lower. And we've talked about being more consistent and that helping, but I feel like, I mean, yesterday I was emotional wreck and I feel like, I mean, sometimes it's hormonal for some of us women and we just have like crazy, whatever, but how do you just, I mean, I feel like even when I'm doing the same thing, thing with my routines or my affirmations or whatever it might be.
[00:23:20] Just the emotional highs and lows seem to be More extreme when I'm really working towards something and is there a way to even that out a little bit more? Well, it's like climbing a mountain when we get near the top. We're tired. We're exhausted We've been working hard and near the top. There's less oxygen There's less like but the views are so worth the climb, right?
[00:23:47] That's why we do it That's why people they want to achieve the goal But as we climb that mountain, it gets harder because our resources have been spent. So there's two things that are really important. [00:24:00] One, we need to make sure that we are replenishing ourselves with the morning routines, self care, and all of those things that we would consider balance.
[00:24:10] That's really important. The other is that there is a true test when we start going to the next level. The universe always pushes back to see if you're serious about the next level. And it requires, if you want to be living a different life, it's going to require you to live a different life.
[00:24:43] You have to be different. And in alignment with the laws upon which that thing is predicated.
[00:24:56] We all could be multi millionaires, but I have not yet breached over that level to be able to say here's what it takes. I think I know the laws, and I'm trying to get myself fully in alignment with those laws. So that I'm able to go there. I want all of you to be able to go there. But it, you can't, you can't want to become somebody who has a six pack.
[00:25:27] And decide that leaning forward for the remote control. is going to get you there. You've got to start eating right. You've got to show up to the gym. You've got to get serious about your, the types of exercises that you're doing. There's, there's all sorts of elements that have to come into play in order to get you to the spot that you are aiming and want to go.
[00:25:56] We have to get an alignment, but is it [00:26:00] easy? No, if it was easy, everybody would do it. So, struggle, being reactionary not having, living in lack, that's what's easy. And what's the state of the majority of the world? Those things.
[00:26:24] I look at so now it can almost take you into, well, Brad, you're, that's really inconsiderate of you. Like, people in Africa don't have a choice. Like, they're starving to death over there. They can't find food. They don't have water. They don't have resources. And that may be true in a lot of the children's instances, but I also know story upon story of entrepreneurs in Africa who just decided I'm tired of it.
[00:26:57] I don't want to live in this poverty any longer. So they went out and started cutting down bananas and hauling them into the city and selling them. And then they got enough money to buy a bike and then they'd take the bike and they'd get more bananas and sell them. And then they built a little empire and then they were able to sell that business.
[00:27:16] Off to somebody else. And they, like, boom, they grew their empire. They were not stuck and consigned to poverty. But most people can't get out of that mindset and make the switch to, there is opportunities, I just need to get in alignment with them. So, is it a mountain to climb? Yes. Is it hard? Is there, is there health, physical health issues, mental health issues?
[00:27:54] Yes. But for me, when I start feeling the, [00:28:00] the, that challenge of, are you ready to go to the next level, Brad? Are you really going to do it? That's when I doubled down. I stayed up night before last till 2am working on some big projects. And I stayed up again last night until 2am and I still got up at 6am.
[00:28:23] I don't recommend that on a consistent basis, but I've got things that I'm, I'm working on. I was going to tell you, Emily, I just did a I did the website, so you need to go check out overcome. mobi. I redid, so one of the programs that I'm working on is for helping LDS men and boys, like young men, be able to work through struggles that they're having with pornography.
[00:28:53] And it's a program I created a long time ago, not a long, long time ago, but a few years back, and I recorded it, and it's, it's amazing, really good content, and it's sad. And Emily's finally kicked me in the pants. Her and Angel jointly came up on me and said, Brad, the world is hurting and needs this thing.
[00:29:18] So Emily and I talked yesterday and she's like, we need to set some goals. When are we going to do it? And I was like, you know what? Let's just do it. I promised her. I will write the website today. So yesterday afternoon. Well, as I got going, as things always do, the challenge came up. It's got me slowed down and there was Mark even came over to hang for a little bit and I wasn't available.
[00:29:45] I was in here working and he came in and sat for a little bit and then he finally was like, well, I see you're deadly focused on this. I'm going to head out. And, and he did, and I stayed up and continued to work until two in the [00:30:00] morning. until I finished the challenge of scaling this mountain. And it's done and I'm excited.
[00:30:10] I have a couple final pieces to put together in the full overall process. But but I'm really proud of the work that I've done and how it's turned out. Was there, was there a challenge? Was it harder? Yes. That was my signal. That was the flare gun saying, here's the next level. Are you ready?
[00:30:42] So can I make a comment, please? So I think I've said this before in our, in our classes and stuff, but as, as you've been talking, Brad, excuse me as you've been talking, I, I keep in my mind, I keep going back to the, the purpose of one of the main purposes of this life is for us to gain experience to do that.
[00:31:06] We have to, to experience things that are good. And the opposite, which are bad. And so, so as we, as we, I mean, it is designed no matter where you're at, no matter who you are, everybody goes through challenges and, and, and struggles with things and everybody feels good. Good things happen too. Sometimes it feels like the challenges overtake the good things but the purpose of this life is to gain experience and to learn the difference between happy, sad, right, wrong good and evil, you know? And so as, as it's, it's, for me, it really helps a lot to understand. It's not anything that we have done. It's it's for our experience and growth, but we will all go through hard things.
[00:31:59] Our [00:32:00] Heavenly Father has a knowledge that we didn't have before this life. We came here to gain that knowledge. And, To gain that knowledge, we have to we have to go through these things and, and, and that is what helps us learn and grow and ultimately helps us become like our heavenly father is.
[00:32:16] And that's. What we all want anyways in the, in like the, the big picture and in the, in the end,
[00:32:23] you know, that's an interesting statement to mark that just I ended up some thoughts and, and as I know we are going to be growing this and I, I won't get to speak as openly about some of these principles of Christ, but I'll let it right now because I think it's really, really insightful what the spirit just whispered to me.
[00:32:46] Isn't it interesting that we know Chris was perfect, right? He was. Absolutely perfect. He never sinned. Yet, even in the very moment when he was to climb the highest mountain, any of us will ever climb. And that's talking physically, spiritually in the garden of Gethsemane. The spirit had to be withdrawn from him.
[00:33:14] He had to go through the trial, prove that he could fully go to the next level.
[00:33:29] That will happen for each of us. Not because God is fighting him, not because. The universe is angry at you, but it wants to know that you are serious about what you said you're curious about. And so the uphill battle does come, and the need to, I would say, downshift. If you're driving a car, a manual transmission car, When you [00:34:00] downshift, you get more power from the motor transferred into the into the wheels, but you're not able to go as fast.
[00:34:10] But you get more power and sometimes we have to downshift to double down and to push to that next level.
[00:34:25] I have a question with that. I think for me sometimes I wonder if it's like the opposition to go to the next level or if it is like, When God shuts the door, he opens the window. And I think that's my struggle is knowing like, if it is something that I'm supposed to keep pushing through, or if it's something where I'm just walking straight into a door that God's closed.
[00:34:53] So for me, in my experience, Catherine, there's been a big difference between a closed door and a challenge to get through it. When my door is closed, my doors are closed. I don't go and tell there's just nothing and decimate every opportunity, but when my heart shuts off on a direction, because I'm a big believer that your heart, your heart here and your mind have to connect in order to be guiding you.
[00:35:27] When God talks to us, we won't have the conflict of logic and Our heart feeling good about it. I wish I could remember, Martin, Jenny shared a scripture about that. I don't know if you remember which one it was, but it talks that he will, the Lord will tell you in your heart and your mind is basically what it says.
[00:35:49] So I watch really closely. How do I feel in my head? Okay, like let's talk about Angel and I moving 26 times in our 20 years of marriage. [00:36:00] That's a lot of moves. By any stretch, people literally, we joke all the time. People are like, wow, why'd you move all the time? And we started saying, well, witness protection.
[00:36:10] And because it was such a high number, People didn't get the sarcasm. They literally thought we must be in witness protection because of how much we've moved, but in all of those moves, I know it's funny stories in all of those moves. There would be something in conflict in the way that we felt about our current situation or The new situation would be completely aligned and we just feel so good that we need to move forward and then looking at the other situation, it was like well, is there hope is there?
[00:36:51] Potential like which one's the better of the two and we got in the habit of We take a piece of paper, draw a line right down the middle, write good, write bad, and we would go down. And we would list out the goods and the bads. And we would figure out, we'd come up with a solution of what we felt was right, logically, and that we felt good about, and then we'd take it to the Lord.
[00:37:20] And it wasn't like, it wasn't then all of a sudden this burning bush would show up and it would be like, yes, you must move. It was like, do you, did you get any like, no, did you? No, I feel really good about it. I still feel good about this. Let's move. We moved to Idaho Falls on a whim. I had no house. We literally loaded up the U Haul.
[00:37:52] I showed up in Idaho Falls without a house. I just had a U Haul full of my stuff. [00:38:00] And I just said, you know what? The Lord will provide. He will figure it out. We feel right about it. We feel good about it. I went there. I gained some incredible experiences. And we were there only one year, and then the door closed, the door slammed shut, and it was clear that what I was there for had been completed, and we moved back to Vancouver.
[00:38:31] And in Vancouver, we found a beautiful home, we had a great job opportunity come up, and things worked. And you guys, I think oftentimes that even when things aren't going to work out, If you'll just trust him, they will. He has an amazing ability to work out things that aren't working out, but the energy you put into it, that's the ingredients that he has to work with.
[00:39:08] Mark, go ahead.
[00:39:11] So as you've been talking, I've been thinking about like, so there's times where I take my kids to the store and they want, let's say, let's say they want a candy bar, they want a treat of some sort. And there are just times where they're just, if that is not going to happen, they're not going to get the treat.
[00:39:28] And a couple of times that they're pretty good about it now, but a couple of times in the past, they have just thrown the biggest fit and they just. I mean, they're screaming and crying and whining and being hungry and just super upset with me. And, and I kind of look at that and think, wow, that, so their door was, their door was shut and it was not going to open because they are, they were not going to get the, the, the treat after.
[00:39:55] Well, after I said no, there was, it was a no, and that was how it was going to be. And they [00:40:00] threw this huge fit. And afterwards I, I realized, I thought to myself, wow, that could have been handled better. Like that could have been handled in a better way. And so that makes me think about all of us and how we are all children of our heavenly father.
[00:40:18] And we are going through trials. Sometimes he shuts doors. Sometimes they're just harder to get through. Sometimes they're open, but when those doors are shut, that makes a challenge. It's, it's something we have to go through. It's something we're going to have to work through. What really matters, just like my kids, if they would have handled the situation better, there's actually been times where they have handled the situation so good that I was like, you know what?
[00:40:45] You're good kids go ahead and get the candy, right? Well, with us as, as children of Heavenly Father. How do we handle the situation? Are we able to handle it? Do we, do we sulk and throw a fit and say, Oh, my life's horrible? Or do we, do we decide, okay, well, this has happened. How can I, how can I work through this?
[00:41:07] And, and, and everything. I know when I do that, when I think, think about a situation and work through it, instead of just get upset about it. When I work through it, I feel a lot better about myself, about life. about the situation. It feels so much better to calmly and try to work through it instead of get upset that life is so horrible.
[00:41:33] That just makes everything worse. It makes me feel a lot worse. That's for sure. But if I can work through it, I feel a lot better after it's after I'm through.
[00:41:43] What you focus on expands. I can't say it enough. And if you have secret worry dwelling inside of your mind, in the back parts of your mind, it is [00:42:00] sabotaging your success.
[00:42:03] And when we fight and kick against closed doors, The lord is like just waiting for you to just say, okay, I'm going to move on from this door and I'm going to keep walking and I'll expect that you've got something in store and boy, has my life been a testimony that he does. You just trust him and just keep walking with him.
[00:42:29] When you, when I said 26, it's 27 moves. And apparently this next move that's coming in August or November. I'm really looking forward to getting up to 30 because that's like just insanely shocking to be able to say 30 because I'm 40 years old. That's almost an average of if I counted my moves when I was a kid, that puts me up over 30 moves.
[00:42:56] So, yeah, I've done some moving in my life, but boy, what a blessed life it's been. And what an incredible journey. And yes, there have been low times. There have been times I remember holding Angel on the living room floor while she sobbed and said, how are we going to succeed in life? How are we going to make this work?
[00:43:18] And I didn't have an answer, but I can confidently tell you now, looking back over the last 20 amazing years, the answer was right in front of me all along. And it was to trust. Heavenly Father, look forward with faith for a better tomorrow, believing that it's coming, stay positive, keep my feet moving, and don't let negativity create a, an alternative world that I could easily slip back into.
[00:43:57] Ellen, thank you for getting that scripture. The, the [00:44:00] scripture I referred to earlier about that the Lord will speak to you DNC eight. Verse two, it says, Yea, behold, I will tell you in your mind and in your heart by the Holy Ghost, which shall come upon you and which shall dwell in your heart. Yes, when you are pleading to Heavenly Father to give you an answer.
[00:44:26] I live my life this way. And I dare say that it's a, it's a good way to, to live when you don't know what move you should make. Father, did I take this job? Did I make this move? Should I start back at school? Should I spend all of our house down payment to pay for this thing? And it's the Lord. Isn't there saying, yes, you wait, this is the plan I had for you.
[00:45:05] And let me get the blueprint and I'll show you right here. And this is what you need to do. That doesn't come but logically and with open filling, those two connect and line up and I'm able to say, okay, take a chance. I'm gonna do it because I feel good about it and I believe that those good feelings and, and don't let logic take over the fillings, either make sure they meet.
[00:45:42] But logic can get in the way sometimes. That's where there's a difference between logic and worry. Spend some time journaling online if you struggle between understanding logic and worry. There's a difference in the [00:46:00] feeling. Worry conjures up things that raise your blood pressure, that make you start to create scenarios.
[00:46:11] That are not true, but could be. That's, that's when we get into worry logic. True logic just looks at the facts and the possibilities and says, Okay, heart, which one do we, which one do we want to hope for the most?
[00:46:37] Go ahead, Emma.
[00:46:39] I thought it was interesting going back to this scripture, where it says that it will tell us in our mind and in our heart. Which is that thinking part of it and that feeling part of it. And so I feel like if there's a conflict between the two, then that means that there's something that we're feeling or thinking, and it's not in alignment, which could be that we have too much worry and we need to let go of that worry.
[00:47:03] But if something's really from God, there won't be that conflict between our mind and our heart. And then he says that the Holy ghost, which will come upon you and Mitchell dwell in your heart. Which to me, is that just sense of peace? That comes, which means that if you're in a state, that's not a state of peace, then either you're, you know, inviting in that conflict, or you haven't resolved the fears with it, or it's not of God.
[00:47:29] And so I think that's just an important thing that just came to me as I've been looking at this scripture to maybe remember, as we're trying to make those decisions and trying to figure out how to move forward. And, and one thing I guess I would add on top of all of that is that there is like the human logic.
[00:47:46] Because there are times when we have felt impressed to do something and we think that goes against,
[00:47:55] I mean, like with your example with, you know, do I spend my down payment on this? Well, [00:48:00] logically, you know, logic, financial advice would say, no, save your down payment and make it great. And, and so that's why I guess I have to be careful, but if your mind and your heart are both settled with that, even though it may go against worldly logic, then we can still move forward in faith, knowing that, that God is watching over us and will help us.
[00:48:23] And, and Emily, God is a God of miracles, and I'll tell you, He is a God of miracles. He creates miracles in my lives, in my life, and in my world. I take risks, and I would say 90, 90 percent of the time, they turn out. And what's really amazing is the other 10 percent when they don't, if you take it in a microcosm of the moment.
[00:48:54] It's a failure. But then, suddenly, another experience comes up in my life, and that failure ends up being exactly what I needed in order to build the next level. And I'm able to go back to that experience and utilize it as, like, what needs to happen and what not to do and all. 100% 100 percent of my risks, my failures, my wins, my like, it's all worked together in this amazing string of pearls and the, the life that I'm building right now and it just gets better and better because I, I, I don't know, maybe I'm brain damaged a little bit and I just believe in this weird way that I It's all working out.
[00:49:49] Even when it's not. It is. And it does. That's, [00:50:00] yeah. Hearing it come out of my own mouth, I know I sound crazy, but I'm telling you, I'm talking truth.
[00:50:12] Anyone else have any thoughts, questions?
[00:50:19] Can I ask a question? Please. So this, kind of while the house was on the market I, I, I've never moved in my life, so this is kind of home, this is kind of family to me and I didn't know how to let go of this knowing that there might be something better, sorry but, Letting go of everything I know?
[00:50:40] Like, I don't know, how do I let go of something, trusting that there is something better out there for me? If that makes sense. It's a wonderful question. And it's, it's a, it's actually such a great question because you don't have to let it go. Now obviously you're going to have to leave physically. I moved, getting close to 30 times now.
[00:51:11] My daughters, who are about your age, have also moved probably 15 to 23 times. And what they learned to do is they've maintained their friendships, the people they love, those connections. And home will always be home. My girls, Vancouver, we're leaving this afternoon to go to Vancouver. My oldest daughter, she's 19, she has a two week break on the esthetician program that she's doing here in Provo.
[00:51:45] And she's, she has been planning for months and months, when I get my break, we're going as a family home to Vancouver. And what does she [00:52:00] do while we're home? She goes and sees all her old friends, she connects. Goes to all her favorite places. The home is a wonderful, special place. And it has been for us in those 27 moves.
[00:52:13] It has been our home base. Those 27 moves frequently were Vancouver. Vancouver moved to Utah. Vancouver moved to Idaho. Vancouver moved to Texas. Home base has always kind of been there for us. We've never lost home. It's always held a special place right there. So, make sure that you keep in good touch with those friends that are close.
[00:52:47] The great news about this is, Now, having moved all those times, I have friends all across the nation. I have people that I get to connect with everywhere I go. When I travel, usually in whatever city I'm ending up in, I have friends there. And so look at it instead of a loss, It can expand and the worry can be let go because you're taking them all with you.
[00:53:18] You're not losing. I have to work through kind of a similar experience in the, the fear that all of us dads eventually face when they have daughters. That we're going to lose our daughter to some guy. Well, one of my friends who has, he's about 10 years ahead of me and has the same, he has two girls that are just right there next to each other, a year and a half apart.
[00:53:49] And he said, Brad, I had that same exact fear. Until it happened, and I didn't lose a daughter, I gained a son, [00:54:00] and that's, that shifted like, whoa, I get to build, I get to expand, I don't need to shrink, I'm not losing a daughter, I'm gaining. So each of those experiences will be to enlarge in the blessings, the opportunities, and the And everything I was waiting in on life,
[00:54:30] if I can input to it was kind of interesting when we moved up here to Idaho, we left where we had lived for. Like five years where three of my kids grew up and, and, you know, we had built in babysitters. So it was like, it was a pretty good deal, but it's interesting as, as we came up here, I realized that there were, there were opportunities for growth that I needed personally that I never would have had there.
[00:55:07] And like now, as I go back, it's still sort of feels like home, but it's just not. And, and so it's kind of interesting that for me, like, you know, I did grow up in pretty much the same home and, and when I go back, like, it's still that place where I have so many memories. And but when I think about it more, what I, what I wanted to hold on to was the memories.
[00:55:42] And, and I don't know, you probably love hearing Mike and his stories, because my brother, Mike, he just has the best stories of growing up. But that to me, that's home. And, and you know when, when [00:56:00] I get there, and I could just sit there for hours with my siblings. And for me, it doesn't matter where it's at if it's in Mike's backyard or mom's house.
[00:56:12] It's those people and, you know, like your friends. And those church people, like that's where that feeling is. And so it doesn't always matter, like where, where it is. Sometimes you just have to kind of look at the, look at the fact of like, yes, it might be hard, but there's always a reason. And it's not just for your parents, because they, you know, Sydney found a great preschool up here that we wouldn't have, we wouldn't have been able to do.
[00:56:53] And there's been other incredible opportunities for like each of us. And so I know that for me, it's, it's really been interesting because I was very wary of moving all the way to Idaho. Thanks, Catherine. I know we're just at the top of the hour but I, what you were saying, chairing made me think of one other scripture that could be really helpful.
[00:57:20] And it says, This is Matthew 6. 22 or 6. 21. It says or where your treasure is, there will your heart be also, and you can carry your treasures with you. And for me, I grew up in Vancouver, Washington, but home for me is Utah. For my daughter, it's Vancouver. But, truly for me, home is where my wife is. I could live in a cardboard [00:58:00] box as long as Angel was there with me.
[00:58:04] That cardboard box would be home. Hope that never has to be the reality, but, I can tell you the thing that makes home is the relationships. And if you maintain those, then home goes with you. So, thanks for sharing that, Catherine, and I'll Yeah, thank you all for your questions, your comments today. It was a good class and I, I appreciate getting to be with you guys.
[00:58:36] I have to go get ready to drive to Washington, so I probably should end it. And I hope you guys know how much I love you stay awesome and let's get out there and rock it. We'll talk to you guys soon.
